“Don’t make yourself smaller while you’re trying to grow something bigger.” That is why one piece of advice from Grace C.W. Liu stood out to me, and it rings true not just in life, but in business. Indeed, one of the easiest ways to limit business growth is to make yourself smaller in the conversations that can move your business forward.
You can have a strong offer, deep expertise, and a thoughtful growth strategy. But if you hesitate to ask for the introduction, follow up, make the offer, set a boundary, or correct a misunderstanding, that strategy never gets a fair chance to work.
Sales is communication. Leadership is communication. Client experience is communication. Growth often depends on being willing to say what needs to be said with confidence and clarity. Grace is the founder of GraceSOULutions, Women’s Voice Strategist and Communication Strategist. With more than 23 years of experience as a Speech-Language Pathologist, she helps capable, thoughtful women who know what they want to say but hold back when something important is at stake.
The Problem Is Not Always Knowing What to Say
Many of Grace’s clients communicate effectively every day. The struggle shows up in conversations where the outcome feels personal or risky.
They may rehearse what they want to say, soften what they really mean, say yes when they want to say no, avoid disagreement, or stay quiet because they are worried about disappointing someone, being judged, creating tension, or damaging a relationship.
Grace’s work starts beneath the words. Instead of handing someone a script and telling her to “be more confident,” she helps women explore what they want to say, what they fear may happen if they say it, and what beliefs or past experiences may be shaping the hesitation. Her Pearl of Grace® framework brings together Presence, Emotion, Awareness and Assertiveness, Resilience, and Learning to Repair and Love. The goal is not to become louder or more aggressive. It is to trust your voice enough to use it with clarity, authenticity, and grace.
Finding Her Own Voice
Grace’s connection to this work is personal. She grew up with traditional Chinese parents while also navigating Western culture in Canada and the United States. At school, she was encouraged to share her ideas. At home, she learned a quieter model of communication where parents were the authority and girls were expected to follow the rules.
She originally planned to follow in her grandfather’s footsteps and become a pharmacist. When that path was clearly not working, Grace made a memorable course correction: she borrowed three darts from a friend, was blindfolded, and threw them at a poster board covered with possible university majors. One of those darts led her to Speech-Language Pathology.
Changing direction also meant telling her father. He did not speak to her for three months. Grace could not control his response. She could only speak up for what she knew she needed. Eventually, he saw the difference between her struggling on one path and thriving on another.
Using your voice does not guarantee that every conversation will be comfortable, but staying silent can have a cost of its own.
Awareness Creates Choice
Grace shared the example of a successful professional who had developed a habit of making herself smaller around certain people. She would pre-apologize for being “too much” before anyone had criticized her.
Their work together uncovered how strongly the client’s desire to be liked was influencing the way she communicated and even how much success she allowed herself to pursue. Once she could see the pattern, she could begin making different choices.
That distinction matters for business owners. Confidence can grow when you understand what is getting in your way and practice responding differently.
Your Voice Is Part of Your Growth Strategy
Business growth requires more than visibility. People need opportunities to know you, understand what you do, and experience how you can help.
That means being willing to ask for the introduction, follow up after the conversation, share your expertise, invite someone to collaborate, make the offer, communicate your boundaries, and hear no without turning that answer into a judgment about your worth.
Grace has experienced this through eWomenNetwork as well. Connections that began through networking have led to introductions, business resources, and women from the community participating as guest panelists in her Voices of Grace events. For Grace, the value has been seeing how one connection can lead to another conversation and eventually to meaningful collaboration.
Stories like Grace’s are exactly why I believe business growth should never happen in isolation. When women business owners are in the right room, conversations turn into collaborations, referrals, ideas, and real momentum. That is what we are building inside eWomenNetwork Greater Seattle: a generous, strategic community where connection meets results.
To meet more women business owners, build meaningful relationships, and experience the room for yourself, join us at an upcoming eWomenNetwork Greater Seattle event:https://events.ewngreaterseattle.com/ane-attend
About the Featured Business Owner
Grace C.W. Liu is the founder of GraceSOULutions, Women’s Voice Strategist and Communication Strategist. She helps women stop holding themselves back, trust the value of what they have to say, and communicate with greater confidence, clarity, authenticity, and grace.
Learn more at GraceSOULutions.com.
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